The Secret Keeper’s Burden
By me :]
Beware the secret keeper’s burden—
The load is not light.
To serve your friends’ need,
To wait in heavy harness,
Not knowing what may be divulged next.
Beware the secret keeper’s burden—
Promises made
Protect all that can never be told.
Friends’ open speech is binding,
Keeping captive
All you hold inside:
“Promise not to tell.”
Beware the secret keeper’s burden—
It comes at heavy price
Each secret edged with dear-bought wisdom.
“Patience will abide.”
You suffer on in pain.
Beware the secret keeper’s burden—
Cloaking weariness
For many thankless years.
Forcing easy, ungrudged support,
The favor never fully returned.
Beware the secret keeper’s burden—
To be turned to for solace
Is a gratifying thing—
To be trusted.
You dare not stoop to less
Than maintaining your friends’ confidence.
But these secrets grow,
Half devil and half child.
To my readers...This is more the extreme of how I often feel. If you're one of my dear friends that confides in me, please, don't stop. This was not meant to discourage you from telling me...only to make you aware that sometimes I can't handle it. I pull myself into your problems and take them on for myself. This "burden" gets to be too much for me and I need time to detach. So if there's ever a time that I don't want to hear it, please don't take it personally. I really do love listening to you because I feel like I'm helping. I love you all :)
Dearest Summer Sister,
ReplyDeleteThis is incredibly insightful and well written. Well done!
I used to be dragged down with what others told me. And while I'm haven't gotten the listening role perfect, I'm getting to the point where I can lift others up by listening to them and at the same time, not be dragged down because I don't "take on" what they tell me. This is invaluable. I believe others appreciate telling me things because they know I care, but because I don't become depressed (--usually) I am able to further lift them up through love, service, and encouragement.
Part of the reason I've been able to do this is because I know Christ loves them. He has born their burdens so I don't have to.
Your great heart is tender. I love you so much!
--big middle sis :)
Love you :) Thanks so much. Especially for the bit about Christ. That helps a LOT. I love you!!
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